10 rules for everyone
I’m a fellow reader of Galadarling.com and today Gala posted something really thoughtful that I thought I could share with you. It’s really something that everyone can relate to.
Gala’s 10 Rules For Everyone
1. Accept yourself. Now. As you are. In all your wonderful imperfection, with all your delicious flaws, regardless of past failure or pain. Stop delaying approval of yourself. You will not be a better (or worse) person when you’ve made your first million, or when you have legions of screaming fans, or when you have a baby. Love yourself now. Forgive yourself now.
2. Take care of yourself — whatever that means to you. From buying a pet to going for long walks with your best friends; from getting a weekly manicure to leaving your abusive partner. You deserve it — & you deserve to feel good.
3. Assert your sexuality. You don’t just choose an orientation & that’s the end of it. Things change! Go with your whims! Buy toys, read manuals, learn tantra, do whatever you want to do. It will keep you youthful, as well as making life more fun.
4. Put the same effort into developing your personal style as most other people put into following trends. In a few years time, when you have a wardrobe full of incredible coats, beautiful shoes & mind-boggling jewellery — & everyone else only has “basics” & recent trends to work from — you will thank me!
5. Develop a strong enough sense of self that you are truly living your own life. Have faith in yourself, believe in yourself, even when your spouse/parents/friends are telling you to go in the opposite direction. At the same time, stay fluid, stay open, or you’ll stagnate. Keep pushing, keep questioning. We stop growing as people when we stop asking questions.
6. Be good to people. Take the moral high-ground. Resist the urge to “get revenge”. Avoid gossip. “Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, & you help them to become what they are capable of becoming.” (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.)
7. Take risks. Change your hairstyle, date someone younger, buy a fabulous sports car, move to Paris, open a bakery, make new friends! Take responsibility for your life, your circumstances, your choices. It is not anyone else’s fault.
8. Shirk that boring obligation to wear ‘appropriate’ clothing. Everyone looks better when they feel good in what they have on their back. Wear a ballgown to the supermarket & a suit to the baseball if it makes you happy!
9. Learn from the best. Take makeup lessons, see a personal stylist, ask your hairdresser the best way to blowdry your hair & watch your manicurist carefully. Even if you don’t do these things professionally, there is no reason why you shouldn’t benefit from their experience.
10. Smile. Be grateful for what you have. Appreciate your life.
It’s really something worth thinking about, don’t you think? Kudos to Gala for making my evening a bit lighter!
Yes it sure is! …also LOVE yourself!
Posted on August 15th, 2007 at 3:05 pm
That a good post, I made a similar one today not as good as yours though. Number 3 is particularly interesting
Posted on August 15th, 2007 at 4:13 pm
Someday I’ll follow these rules…
Posted on August 16th, 2007 at 12:27 am
I absolutely love this post! I agree with all of them!!!
Posted on August 16th, 2007 at 3:00 pm
Heart-warming. It made my otherwise dark day a little cheery. :D
Posted on August 17th, 2007 at 12:14 am
This is a great post! I agree with all them, but I really like the #1 rule. I think if you really accept yourself for who you are the other rules will become more natural for you.
Posted on August 17th, 2007 at 4:06 am
Hi There, that’s a great list, all very practice and powerful if lived.
Thank you.
Peace,
Wade
themiddleway.net
Posted on August 21st, 2007 at 8:59 am
Thanks for the first two advices! Those were I only need.
Posted on August 21st, 2007 at 4:40 pm
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Posted on August 22nd, 2007 at 3:47 am
You have made my day complete by me reaing the list in its entirety.
Posted on August 23rd, 2007 at 3:14 pm
I have been going through a very tough time and this is really an eye opener, big changes in my life effective today.
Posted on August 23rd, 2007 at 3:16 pm
i’m sorry. this is another set of pithy “self-improvement” ideas that just comes off as hollow and superficial. how about solid stuff, like “read”? better yet, how about nothing at all? if i see another list of “tips” and “ideas” and similar self-improvement nonsense i think i’ll die. i wish people would stop offering such inane lists. i don’t think this stuff is helpful, sorry, i just don’t. when i hear people start to give advice and say things like, try this and try that i just wish they’d try shutting up for a change. pathetic.
Posted on August 23rd, 2007 at 8:25 pm
[quote comment="5286"]i’m sorry. this is another set of pithy “self-improvement” ideas that just comes off as hollow and superficial. how about solid stuff, like “read”? better yet, how about nothing at all? if i see another list of “tips” and “ideas” and similar self-improvement nonsense i think i’ll die. i wish people would stop offering such inane lists. i don’t think this stuff is helpful, sorry, i just don’t. when i hear people start to give advice and say things like, try this and try that i just wish they’d try shutting up for a change. pathetic.[/quote]
Then I wonder why you even bother to comment on a post with such pathetic tips. From what I see, you are the only pathetic person here…
Posted on August 24th, 2007 at 2:58 am
Accepting Yourself has to be the most important on that list! I would suggest 2 more, be considerate and always look at things from the brighter side :)
Cheers
James
PS: You just attracted some stumble love :)
Posted on August 24th, 2007 at 4:47 am
[quote comment="5294"][quote comment="5286"]i’m sorry. this is another set of pithy “self-improvement” ideas that just comes off as hollow and superficial. how about solid stuff, like “read”? better yet, how about nothing at all? if i see another list of “tips” and “ideas” and similar self-improvement nonsense i think i’ll die. i wish people would stop offering such inane lists. i don’t think this stuff is helpful, sorry, i just don’t. when i hear people start to give advice and say things like, try this and try that i just wish they’d try shutting up for a change. pathetic.[/quote]
Then I wonder why you even bother to comment on a post with such pathetic tips. From what I see, you are the only pathetic person here…[/quote]
Joe.
You pain comes out loud and clear. I think the first thing you should do is forgive and let go of the pain and the past. You say you really don’t care for “this list” of self-improvement ideas, and yet you took the time to read through and even comment…which means you care more than you’re willing to admit. I disagree with the person who said you’re pathetic. I think you need this more than than you even know. It will give do you good if you give it a shot.
Posted on August 26th, 2007 at 12:00 pm
You’ve to accept yourself, but only for the moment. The actual self today is only a transitional stage to the better self of tomorrow … Read on:
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Posted on August 27th, 2007 at 12:23 pm
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Posted on August 27th, 2007 at 2:01 pm
[quote comment="5382"]You’ve to accept yourself, but only for the moment. The actual self today is only a transitional stage to the better self of tomorrow … Read on:
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No one can read German around here.
Posted on August 27th, 2007 at 3:15 pm
[quote post="321"]No one can read German around here.[/quote]
So why don’t you learn it? I learned English too. Learning languages improves your self … :)
Posted on August 27th, 2007 at 3:21 pm
[quote comment="5387"][quote post="321"]No one can read German around here.[/quote]
So why don’t you learn it? I learned English too. Learning languages improves your self … :)[/quote]
It sure does. I learned a little German in school, but don’t remember much about it ^^
Posted on August 28th, 2007 at 12:23 am
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Posted on August 31st, 2007 at 12:32 pm
so nice. hmm after i have read this, what am i suppose to cange in my life?-… hmm.. . .
—thinking..
ok i got a problem here.. in fact i got two.. the one is that i can’t answer my own question, and the other is that when i dont care about football, i play well!.. but i really care about football!! .. buaaa:(
Posted on September 9th, 2007 at 8:13 am
ah c’mon, this is pathetic. for example: 7. Take risks. what kind of risks are the ones mentioned there?? same for other points… or: 9. Learn from the best. Take makeup lessons, see a personal stylist, ask your hairdresser the best way to blowdry your hair & watch your manicurist carefully. WTF? seriously… don’t you feel like they insult you? i do. like they assume girls are dumb.
tho if this helps someone then fine, nice, yay lets be happy together… but i saw another comment up there criticising this and someone asked “so why do u even bother to comment on this” well… do you post on here to suck up to each other and say all together “we love this” or do you wanna talk to each other, communicate, exchange opinions? i commented on this because i don’t think its right to read anything that tells you what to do, you have your own head - THINK. I know it’s easier to have it done for you but seriously, read this a couple of times more and maybe you’ll get what i mean. take care xxx a.
Posted on September 9th, 2007 at 1:13 pm
[quote comment="5672"]ah c’mon, this is pathetic. for example: 7. Take risks. what kind of risks are the ones mentioned there?? same for other points… or: 9. Learn from the best. Take makeup lessons, see a personal stylist, ask your hairdresser the best way to blowdry your hair & watch your manicurist carefully. WTF? seriously… don’t you feel like they insult you? i do. like they assume girls are dumb.
tho if this helps someone then fine, nice, yay lets be happy together… but i saw another comment up there criticising this and someone asked “so why do u even bother to comment on this” well… do you post on here to suck up to each other and say all together “we love this” or do you wanna talk to each other, communicate, exchange opinions? i commented on this because i don’t think its right to read anything that tells you what to do, you have your own head - THINK. I know it’s easier to have it done for you but seriously, read this a couple of times more and maybe you’ll get what i mean. take care xxx a.[/quote]
Please, you don’t think if you believe that these points are some kind of strict rules. They are for positive thinking only, which seems to be something you can’t handle. Sure that everyone doesn’t agree, but that doesn’t give them the right to bring everyone else down.
Maybe you should try constructive criticism next time.
Posted on September 9th, 2007 at 2:12 pm
Wow. One post caused a lot of argument. :(
Posted on September 10th, 2007 at 3:12 pm
I have my own strange style. I think I look cute, my husband thinks I look cute and so do my kids.
The other day I was in an outdoor area of our mall which is in a very upscale neighborhood. I had on a black skort, white wife beater, a cammo bandana with my long dark hair in braids, matching cammo shoes and one of my husbands old cammo army BDU tops with the sleeves cut off with my last name on it! :)
I matched
I was cute
I was me
….and this old woman walks by me and says
“You look so stupid”.
I was about 5 seconds from letting her have a very long and loud lecture but my kids were with me.
I asked my 10 yo son what he thought I should do and he said “Eh, just let it go mom, shes not worth it.”
So thats what I did.
although I still long to slap that hag.
Posted on September 20th, 2007 at 9:45 am
I just read some more of the comments.
Screw the critics, this is good stuff man.
Thanks!
Posted on September 20th, 2007 at 9:46 am
[quote comment="5669"]so nice. hmm after i have read this, what am i suppose to cange in my life?-… hmm.. . .
—thinking..
ok i got a problem here.. in fact i got two.. the one is that i can’t answer my own question, and the other is that when i dont care about football, i play well!.. but i really care about football!! .. buaaa:([/quote]
why didnt anybody comment on my reply?! buaaah..
well if you didnt know.. im sitting as an substitusion at every footballgame. . i just cant get agressive eneugh to play well, - i need help - this site is not eneugh. so.. do something..
Posted on September 23rd, 2007 at 11:04 am
it’s hard to take someone telling you to be ‘individual’ seriously when they’re dressed how this woman is in her picture. she looks like every other goth/emo/punk i’ve ever seen in my life and is just as cookie cutter as whoever it is she’s trying to ‘rebel’ against. moreover, it’s hard to see how these ‘rules’ (especially 4, 8 and 9) could EVER lead to any sort of meaningful self-improvement. If you want a helpful ‘rule’ how about STOP CARING SO MUCH ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK. superficial things like clothing and makeup are never going to lead you to happiness. They may help you cover up how unhappy you are but that’s about it. In the end you’re just wearing your badge of materialism and superficiality on your sleeve, just like the woman in the picture. The way you look doesnt make you anything special, the only thing that does that is what’s in your heart and what’s in your mind. It’s a shame that the author of this article and so many of the people who have read it and liked it are so thoroughly confused.
Posted on October 18th, 2007 at 8:00 pm
Some good advice here :).
Posted on January 5th, 2008 at 1:33 pm